Tuesday, October 7, 2008
Having had a day to ponder the wonderful news of our healthy baby boys, I find myself with more questions than answers. What do I do with boys? I was not blessed with a brother, so I am sorely lacking in the boy knowledge department. Sure, I have a husband, but he is a man. I missed the whole "boy" time. It may feel like he is a boy at times (i.e. picking up after him, cleaning, etc.) but he is definitely a grown man. I have an almost three year old little girl. She wears tutus and hair-bows and tights. She plays with dolls and Dora and dishes. She would have no idea what to do with trucks or trains or pirates. We go to gymnastics and dance, not football and baseball. Therefore, I do not know what to do with a boy, much less two of them. I feel it will not be terribly different for the first year or two, but after that I fear I will be at a loss. I don't want to encourage them to be rough and tumble, but neither do I want them to be girly boys. I don't want them to play with guns and Power Rangers, but is it unavoidable? How far does nature versus nurture go? I know I don't have to have all the answers today, or even in the next year, but the questions are certainly already here. If any of you have any thoughts or advice, please feel free to share them with me. Any words of encouragement are greatly appreciated. Many more questions to come in the future.